2020 Intentions

I am not one for major New Year’s resolutions. I have spent many years tweaking my lifestyle and am truly confident in where I am now. I eat well and in a way that works for my body. I don't really drink. I get as much sleep as I can. I feel it is unhealthy to spend the beginning of the year nit picking at myself and pointing out all the things I need to overhaul and change.

I do however like to set general intentions for myself each year. Things I want to work on over the year, including things I do well that I want to do more of. Last year I started using a Less/More approach to my annual intentions. I like how quick and easy it is and how it focuses on the positive not just the negative.

Checking in on last year’s intentions I am pleased with some things I have been able to incorporate more of in my life. Doug and I now go on a weekly Friday night date night. I try and have some time each weekend for lazy, unstructured downtime. I have been gentler and more accepting and loving towards myself.

From the “Less” side of my list I have become a bit better about over scheduling myself but there is still room to grow. I have been making myself get into bed much earlier, sometimes right after dinner. I find that if I have plenty of time to read and wind down before bed I am more likely to go to sleep before 11. Defensiveness continues to be something I want to improve. It can be very hard for me to remember that not everything everyone says to me is a criticism or attack against me. As for complaining I am very proud of how far I have come with this. When people ask me how I am I have been making a HUGE effort to say something positive and it really does help may mood and the tone of our interaction.

Here is my More/Less list for 2020!